I posted the article about Angelina Jolie possibly losing primary custody of her kids as a public illustration of what not to do if you don’t want to lose custody of your children.
I am not commenting or opining on the Pitt Jolie case, but the article indicates that the Judge is concerned that Ms. Jolie the mother is not encouraging a relationship with the children’s father and is in fact interfering with their relationship. One of the primary considerations for the court in determining “custody” (what we refer to in Florida as “timeshare”) is which parent will encourage and foster a continuing relationship between the child or children and the other parent.
So here is what not to do if you don’t want to lose custody of your child or children during a divorce:
- Do not refuse access to the children;
- Do not interfere with facetime or telephone calls;
- Do not criticize the other parent in front of your child or children;
- Do not unilaterally schedule activities without consulting the other parent;
- Do not monitor a child’s communications with the other parent;
- Do not call and or text your child or children numerous times while they are with the other parent;
- Do not refuse to allow your child or children to call the other parent while they are with you if they want to talk to them;
- Do not have your child or children refer to your new girlfriend or boyfriend as their “parent”;
- Do not refuse to provide access to information about the child or children such as illnesses, injuries and or school projects or activities;
- Do not fight in front of the child or children or discuss the divorce proceedings with the child or children.